Advice for Visiting the Sick and Afflicted

Written by Sister Zarella Mosqueda on Thursday, January 26, 2017. Posted in Great Ideas

Advice for Visiting the Sick and Afflicted

The months of November and December are called “the season of giving back;” however, the giving does not have to stop there. Something that can be done year round is give aid to the sick and afflicted. In order to help another person, it's helpful to understand the meaning of this.

Giving aid to someone is defined as "helping a person out of a risk or danger, to meet a pressing need or solve an important and urgent problem." This definition indicates that giving aid is not exclusively for people who are physically sick; it says “out of a risk,” which could be at any time or in any situation that may represent physical or spiritual danger.

Based on this and the knowledge that the word of God gives, I find two types of illnesses or distresses, physical and spiritual. Both are equally necessary and important to address. Here are a few examples:

  • People physically ill in a hospital or care facility
  • People who have recently lost a family member
  • People who do not regularly attend church
  • Brothers/Sisters who suddenly stop coming to church
  • Others…

The purpose of aid is to give relief, which means making a tedious or annoying moment pleasant or funny. An easy and very common way to help is through a "visit," by personally going to see and help the person in need.

Why do it?

Who should do it?

Even though in Luke 9:1-2, God is giving a mandate to His apostles, certain work is available for all disciples of Christ, so everyone who considers themselves a servant of God can visit the afflicted.

What to do on a visit?

  • Call first.
  • Inform yourself about the person's affliction.
  • Prepare yourself mentally for what you might see and hear.
  • Choose a good topic of conversation that interests the person.
  • Keep any disclosed information confidential.
  • Bring something thoughtful (flowers, book, game).
  • Help in any way you can (fluff a pillow, get water).
  • Maintain soft (genuine, two-way) eye contact.
  • Sit close.
  • Let the person cry.
  • Offer to look after the person's house, pets, etc.
  • End the visit well without making an excuse to leave.
  • Support the person's primary caregiver.

What not to do on a visit?

  • Talk about your own illnesses or problems.
  • Bring food if you're not sure the person can eat it.
  • Show distaste for the hospital, facility, machines, tubes, etc.
  • Reproach or criticize the person's state, as this can just depress the person further — remember the friends of Job?
  • Repeatedly look at the clock or your phone.
  • Promise more than you can deliver.

What do you get from visiting?

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Comments (3)

  • Sister Valerie Dulisse

    Sister Valerie Dulisse

    26 January 2017 at 11:41 |
    Sister Zarella, What a beautiful, thought-provoking article! I was really blessed by it, and really appreciate all the effort and perfect insights you shared with us. You have the heart and mind of a deaconess. I have no doubt, and pray God will use you to further His kingdom in your young life. I miss you, sis!
    Love, Sister Valerie

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  • Barbara Weiner

    Barbara Weiner

    26 January 2017 at 14:00 |
    Dearest Zarella
    What a well thought out and beautifully written article! You get the price for this one!
    Love you and miss you
    Barbara Weiner,
    Irvine branch

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  • Brother Gary Thompson

    Brother Gary Thompson

    03 February 2017 at 14:05 |
    Praise GOD for a beautiful article.

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